We Asked 8 People If Astrology Plays A Role In Their Relationship
- meroda rodac
- Aug 8, 2018
- 6 min read
We said it before and we'll say it again: Romantic compatibility theories abound in astrology and are by no means make-or-break rules for every couple. However, it is kind of cool when you learn that your sign is said to be well-suited for your partner's — and you can actually see that compatibility playing out IRL. I could talk forever about my own relationship and the Capricorn-Cancer dynamics therein, but I wanted to see if this sort of kismet, in which your relationship's actual, real-life dynamics can be seen in your respective astrological identities, has happened to other couples. So, I asked R29 readers to share their thoughts on the matter: What sort of dynamic is at play in their relationship, and do they feel like their sign has helped to define that dynamic?
Some people had a very pat view of astrology's role in their relationship — it was absolutely a factor in their relationship's success. A few people specifically noted that their "cusp" signs helped them understand their partner's better. (For the record, the idea of a "cusp" sign, which occurs when someone's birthday falls between two signs' solar seasons, isn't supported throughout the entire astro community, but, if believing in it only adds to your warm and fuzzy feelings about your lover, we don't see the harm in that.) Meanwhile, others believed their relationship succeeded in spite of astrology, since their sign is supposedly incompatible with their S.O.'s. Whether you have stayed up into the wee hours analyzing your S.O.'s birth chart or haven't thought about their astrological identity once, stopping to see where your sign (or your partner's) shows up in your relationship can be pretty darn revealing. Maybe you're a Cancer who realizes you fully embody the "caregiver" role in your partnership. Maybe you're a Gemini who can't help but poke and prod at your partner for details and answers to your myriad questions. Whatever it is that you notice, we bet you'll start reading your horoscope a little more closely after that.
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Responses have been edited for length and clarity. WE'RE TOTAL OPPOSITES IN EVERY WAY. Name: Sarah Sign: Scorpio S.O.'s name: Steve S.O.'s sign: Taurus What is your dynamic like as a couple? What roles do you fulfill in each other's lives? "We're total opposites in every way. He's responsible and disciplined, I'm a sleepy procrastinator. I'm fun-loving and eager to be social, while he's more of a homebody. Because we're so different, we push and pull each other out of our respective shells, and help one another to be better, well-rounded people."
Do you think your respective astrological signs influence this dynamic? "It's no coincidence (maybe) that Scorpio and Taurus are directly opposite one another across the astrological chart. They're completely different. I feel my partner and I embody the [classic] Scorpio/Taurus traits, but that's why we're such a strong couple. Opposites attract." I AM GOOD AT WHAT HE IS NOT. Name: Treva Sign: Pisces S.O.'s name: Alec S.O.'s sign: Taurus What is your dynamic like as a couple? What roles do you fulfill in each other's lives? "I take more of the control when it comes to planning things. He'd never make it to things without [my] help!" Do you think your respective astrological signs influence this dynamic? "Yeah, we work well because I am good at what he is not — and vice versa!" FRIENDS ALWAYS TELL US THAT WE BALANCE EACH OTHER OUT NICELY. Name: "D" Sign: "Gemini-Cancer cusp" S.O.'s name: "S" S.O.'s sign: Scorpio What is your dynamic like as a couple? What roles do you fulfill in each other's lives? "We are both very childish people, but I tend to think more logically in the moment and take care of more general responsibilities. He thinks quietly and then acts on his own. He doesn't like to share much, so I feel like I have to coax answers out of him, but he's clever and catches onto that sometimes... I always tend to take care of people more in relationships and to make sure they're okay at the expense of myself, but I am stubborn to a fault. I can hold on to a mood for a long time. He is also stubborn, but his mood can go from upset to alright just by walking out of the room — unless he feels he's been greatly slighted, then it can take multiple hours or days to work everything out. I like to fix problems as quickly as possible, partly because I don't like the negative air and can't deal with it (I will overthink everything, he will not)... He is a very motivated person and will put himself and his success first. He wants to follow one grand path, whereas I like to do a lot of things at once which I can become bored of easily... We often argue about my direction in life, but I think it's important to not just dedicate yourself to one thing." Do you think your respective astrological signs influence this dynamic? "Geminis are nosey and Scorpios are secretive, so that's one thing we've had to learn the hard way about each other and we've had to adjust. Scorpios are also very extreme and put their all into everything, which is true [in his case]. They put their all into a bitter argument; they'll try to distance themselves from you by saying hurtful things to mask their pain, but they'll also be very sweet and loving and loyal... Everyone always says these signs are the worst possible match and it does seem rather tumultuous at points, but friends always tell us that we balance each other out nicely. Scorpios are endlessly mysterious and ever-changing, and I think that can be an attraction point for Geminis. But, also being a Cancer cusp and living with another water sign is very grounding." TECHNICALLY, OUR SIGNS AREN’T SUPPOSED TO BE COMPATIBLE. Name: Emily Sign: Libra S.O.'s name: Cal S.O.'s sign: Pisces What is your dynamic like as a couple? What roles do you fulfill in each other's lives? "Supportive companions, power couple-esque." Do you think your respective astrological signs influence this dynamic? "Not sure! I’d like to think not too much, because, technically, our signs aren’t supposed to be compatible." I ALWAYS CHECK HIS HOROSCOPE FOR THE DAY. Name: Lola Sign: Pisces S.O.'s name: Stephen S.O.'s sign: Aquarius What is your dynamic like as a couple? What roles do you fulfill in each other's lives? "I am the affectionate, emotional, blissful one. He is the more hardened, less affectionate one. I let my emotions make decisions for me, where he is logical and methodical. We balance each other out in almost every way. We express ourselves in different ways that took months to understand. " Do you think your respective astrological signs influence this dynamic? "Yes! Whenever Stephen acts or does something a certain way I always check his horoscope for the day. When we fight over something I look over his signs' personality traits and try to see things his way." [WE ARE THE] BIGGEST AND MOST LOYAL SUPPORT SYSTEM FOR EACH OTHER. Name: Erin Sign: Scorpio S.O.'s name: Robert S.O.'s sign: Cancer What is your dynamic like as a couple? What roles do you fulfill in each other's lives? "[We are the] biggest and most loyal support system for each other." Do you think your respective astrological signs influence this dynamic? "Totally." WE TRY TO UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER’S CHALLENGES. Name: Vanessa Sign: Gemini S.O.'s name: "L" S.O.'s sign: Virgo What is your dynamic like as a couple? What roles do you fulfill in each other's lives? "We are supportive of each other’s dreams and goals. We try to understand each other’s challenges and how to best address our needs as a couple. We are each other’s best friends and main player in our support systems. " Do you think your respective astrological signs influence this dynamic? "No — Gemini and Virgos are not compatible. We bring our own personalities to the table, but we love each other and move past any negativity." NORMALLY, THIS RELATIONSHIP ISN'T SUPPOSED TO WORK. Name: Alex Sign: Scorpio S.O.'s name: Dave S.O.'s sign: Aries What is your dynamic like as a couple? What roles do you fulfill in each other's lives? "We are both powerful and controlling, but we are both in tune with each other's emotions. He is on the Pieces cusp, which allows him to be much more in tune with his emotions and those of people around him. I'm on the Libra cusp, which gives me a more intellectual bent to keep up with him and a need for justice that he looks for, too. Normally, this relationship isn't supposed to work, but we've been together for 10 years! " Do you think your respective astrological signs influence this dynamic? "I 100% do!"
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